4 things that annoy me about blogging

As you've probably guessed by now, I'm pretty fond of blogging. I've been a member of the gang since I was a 14-year-old with but a Jeffery Campbell Lita boot shaped twinkle in my eye and a Look magazine in my school backpack. This side of the internet has provided me with more joy than I could ever have expected when I pressed publish on my first ever post on my first ever blog (it was a riveting read on how I would be mixing the stud and pastels trends of 2012 together that I will most definitely not be linking here). The point is, I've made friends, discovered passions within myself that I didn't even know existed and even created a part-time job for myself whilst I'm studying. I owe a lot to the world of blogging.

That being said, I don't mind admitting that aspects of it have slightly pissed me off in recent months. And by "slightly" I mean, "enough for me to writing a blog post about it instead of watching Jane the Virgin".

Now, I don't mean to be a Negative Nancy or a Bitchy Barbara here, but sometimes the things that see unfolding before me in the bloggersphere make me sad. Mainly that's because I know how much potential people have to do good through social media (I have a whole series where I celebrate amazing online girl bosses, for crying out load!) and it's a shame to see it not being used in that way.

The blogger cookie cutter

As with most things, the representation at the top of the blogging world and every other social-media based career is distinctly lacking. The content creators that I see getting invited to events, getting book deals and working with brands are, for the most part, white, thin, middle class and able bodied. That's not to say that they don't deserve the opportunities that they get, but more that there are definitely people out there that don't fit those categories who are doing just as badass of a job but getting half of the recognition. There are exceptions, obviously. But they are still painfully few and far between.

I think that it's our responsibility as a community to amplify the voices of those that are too often ignored in the blogging game, so it makes me sad to see that it's really not happening.

Blogging tips. Blogging tips. And oh, there's some more blogging tips. 

One of the things that makes blogging so amazing is that it gives you a platform to talk about whatever you bloody well please. You don't have to get it signed off by a publisher or okay-ed by your boss, so you've got a lot of creativity freedom to play with. Which is why seeing what is essentially the same post over and over in my feed annoys me. Don't get me wrong, I love getting advice from people about how to edit photos, how to increase your following or the best way to get out of a blogging rut. But when there are three blogging tips posts for every other type of post, I can't help but feel it's gone a little bit too far. I get that they're are popular and so a lot of people want to jump on board, but unless you have an interesting insight to share, my god do these posts get repetitive. Yes, I get it, hashtags are the key to all that is good and holy in this world.

Not only that, but I can't help but feel that this drive towards creating perfect content is turning the blogging world into one big competition with a rose gold trophy at the end of it. It's great to see bloggers supporting other bloggers and sharing what they've learned from experience, but I think sometimes it's important to reinforce that you can be blogging just for fun. It's very easy to get caught up in obsessing over your SEO when it's all you see people talking about.

People telling me what I "so need" in my life 

I know that affiliate links are a bomb way of making money online and I'm all for them, especially if it's related to a product you actually love. But please stop telling me what I "so need". Be it this season, in my makeup bag or in my pantry (I'm a student, I don't even have a pantry), if I hadn't yet noticed its absence in my life then the chances are it's not a completely necessary purchase. That's not to say I won't buy it. It's just to say that I would really rather not be told to do so.

I get that "you need this in your life" is a bit more snappy and clickable than "I've just discovered this really lovely thing that I think you might also enjoy, if we have similar tastes", but I think that transparency is pretty important when it comes to blogging.

Then again, perhaps I just haven't got past my angsty teen stage of not wanting to ever be told what to do.

Twitter drama

Is it me or has "twitter drama" really amped up over the past couple of months?

Bloggers 'exposing' each other. People getting scammed out of money. A general air of bitchiness that seems to be pervading a fair amount of my timeline. The blogging community just seems to be going through a pretty negative time based on its tweets. Of course, I also see us supporting and sharing each other's content, which makes me want to do a happy dance, but frankly, I'm am beyond bored of the online arguments. It makes me feel like I'm in year 9 again and a girl has just found out that that her boyfriend of 3 days has been MSN messaging her best friend.


  1. Love this! Totally agree - blogging tips seem to be half (at least) of the posts coming up on my Bloglovin feed every day and, yes I agree I love learning how to improve my photography or maybe tips when I'm playing around with my blog layout, but I completely agree that a blog is your own masterpiece and following other peoples tips just makes them all the same and makes people more likely to compare to others! I also completely agree that the twitter and social media scandals are a little OTT, I barely follow them tbh (I can't keep up) - we should be promoting each other and acting as a community!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

    1. Thank you, Josie! I'm glad I'm not alone in being bored of the twitter drama and the blogging tips! xx

  2. I could not agree more, especially on your last point. While I adore Twitter to no end, I've found myself often staying out of blogging circles lately simply because I know that the drama is incredibly pervasive & difficult to escape. I hate the thought of that (especially since so many of my wonderful blogging friends are on Twitter!), but there is no harm in making one's world a little safer & quieter, no? Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, dear Bethany - lovely post. xx

    Topaz (Six Impossible Things)

    1. I've been staying out of it too! I completely agree that sometimes it's the better option for the sake of happiness.

      Thank you for reading, lovely! xx

  3. haha ohhhhh the lengthy blogging tip posts. regurgitated and mutated to within an inch of their life! i very rarely read something new in blogging tip posts, and completely agree it takes some of the fun out of blogging if people are 'competing' instead of just 'having a fucking damn good time'.

    katie xx lacoconoire.com

    1. They're so over done, aren't they?! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so.

      Thanks as always for reading, lovely! xx

  4. YES, YES, YES, I am only a small blogger but am already starting to see these behaviours more and more. I HATE blogging tips with a passion; I'll blog about what I want to thanks! And the bitchiness on twitter is making smaller bloggers like me not want to join in on blogger chats and things for fear of being harshly judged. I came into this thinking there was a much larger sense of community than there actually is and that's sad and I think it needs to change.


    1. I'm glad I'm not the only one who's seeing it! It's such a shame that it can stop wanting bloggers to connect with each other, isn't it? xx